Fear and guilt are the two main primary emotions that can do us the most harm. But since both are mental inventions, we could think that with the same tool that we created we can get rid of them: our mind.
These emotions tend to increase or decrease the biological activity of our body: hyperactivity or hypoactivity; euphoria or depression. And while we are dominated by these emotional extremes, our body loses health because the metabolic system is unbalanced.
Guilt is an emotion that is closely linked to fear, because it makes us feel that we have caused others or ourselves some harm and in that recognition is hidden the fear of deserving some type of punishment. Here we must learn to cultivate acceptance taking into account that accepting is not the same as assuming. When we assume we consider ourselves deserving of misfortune, because even if we are not aware of it, we will be admitting guilt. However, by releasing guilt, recognizing life events as a process for learning and not as punishment, and knowing that these are presented only to be transcended; We can face adversity naturally and overcome conflicts more successfully and quickly.
For its part, fear relates us more to the future, making us believe that the future will bring us circumstances that are difficult to overcome.
When we are immersed in the energy of fear we lose our lives because we anticipate possible future events and we do not live in the present, which is the only authentically real thing.
We can fear many things that we interpret as different: illness, the opinion of others, war, a natural catastrophe ... but there is only one fear. We fear only possible suffering. And the challenge of the human being is precisely to get rid of that fear and focus life as a continuous transitional process.
We tend to move out of fear or love, however we easily confuse these two concepts, because the survival instinct continues to interfere and confuse us when establishing our scale of priorities.
But in the state of evolution in which we are already, we have to use our mental capacity to give way to the dictates of the heart, accepting that it is better to love life than to fear losing it. When we integrate into ourselves the reasoning that we are capable of leaving this planet at any moment and we accept it, each moment of inhalation and exhalation becomes vital fullness, the only thing that life really is: a breath.
Scientific studies are constantly appearing that alert us to acoustic, environmental and electromagnetic pollution, the influence on health of incorrect eating habits. It goes without saying that we must be informed about all this and act accordingly; But if there are circumstances that prevent us from making the necessary changes, to incorporate new habits into our lives, or in doing so, we have to provoke forced situations that contribute to increasing our stress; it is preferable to accept the situation in which we find ourselves and hope that the circumstances will be more favorable to effect those changes. Keep in mind that if, in addition to living in a polluted environment, we add to this our fear of the damage that this may cause us, we will be multiplying the damages and, consequently, this would harm us more than the harmful source itself.
It is impossible to fear something unknown. Then, then, it is easy to understand that what we fear is the murmur of our memory that comes from the accumulated emotional material of our past, and not from an objective reality.
On the other hand, we must know how to differentiate pain from suffering. Sadness is a legitimate feeling of the human condition and it does not have to contain other components than pain. And this pain does not have to contain the unhealthy seed that brings suffering, which is what a noxious emotion becomes when we cannot find a way to balance the damage it causes us.
It is logical that sadness takes over us for as long as we need to deal with a painful event, such as the loss of a loved one and we must be compassionate and patient with ourselves, granting us the necessary period of adaptation.
By making these states serene and not unbalanced, we will be on the right path, since feeling is not synonymous with suffering. When the feeling is just that, and non-suffering, it does not turn against us. Now, we have to be very careful when observing how our emotional body tries to blame us for not suffering in a situation in which, according to custom, we should be doing it. And this happens because we have usually been educated in the belief that suffering is synonymous with goodness and our mind is not trained to remain in balance when a situation arises in which it would be appropriate to suffer and therefore become unbalanced. We mistakenly interpret that if we suffer a lot we are good people and we want more, and if we love someone a lot we should live worried. In this trap we elaborate our doom. But we have already learned that Love has nothing to do with all that.